WALTERS in Fort Greene Brooklyn has become a regular staple for great comfort food, especially their bar steak. The staff are extremely friendly, remembered our drinks orders and they will call you for your table if you decide to wait at a different bar. Reasonable prices make it a go to place for couples and for families. In the evenings however it may get a bit loud.
The Expat Fiancee
A journey from March 31st 2012 (the Proposal) to May 18th 2013 (the Wedding) through the eyes of a gullible European trying to stay collected and keep up with New York City's wedding madness.
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GEMMA on Bowery.
It’s were the betrothed took me out for our sixth month-versary and again at our first anniversary. Lovely lighting and atmosphere. We asked the sommelier to see if they had a particular wine which we had a picture of. They did! And it complemented our pizzas and delicious truffle polenta fries perfectly.
It is probably easier to get a table for brunch or for an early dinner but reservations do not require too much time in advance. A very unusual hotel restaurant which feels cozy and underlines the homey feeling with genuine Italian cuisine.
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I was waiting for the longest time, she said. I thought you forgot.” “It is hard to forget,” I said, “when there is such an empty space when you are gone.Story People, Brian Andreas
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Beautiful table decorations. Great inspiration for the big day!
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SARAGHINA in Bed/Stuy Brooklyn blew our mind with its truffle Pizza with Arugula and Prosciutto. The pretty and laid back interior could be from the Italian country side. Nice service and reasonable prices make it a go to place for couples but also for families. Still, it never felt crowded and we will definitely be back!
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We find rest in those we love, and we provide a resting place in ourselves for those who love us.Saint Bernard of Clairvaux
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The betrothed and I haven’t spent much time apart in the past year. Suddenly two months ago we were both surprised with a lot of (involuntary) travel. Which also meant many times and time zones apart. And let me tell you, I don’t like it. He says he is dealing with it better, but I suspect he is just putting on a brave face.
As I was sitting in the Admiral’s Club in Chicago’s O’Hare airport, I was thinking about why it seems so much harder for women than for men to leave the known behind and spend a few days or weeks without the safety net of home.
The betrothed recently traveled to a place 14 hours away and while we were in touch most of the time during his transit, once he got there, he was happy to embrace his freedom - while I was pining for communication. When I travel, it is the exact opposite. I know my partner’s timezone, I develop a feeling for when he gets up and when he goes to sleep and I usually track his flights on my phone.
The betrothed finds this strange. He claims that before me, as a longtime bachelor, when he would leave friends after a longer stay, they never demanded that he check in with them when he landed. Me on the other hand I would demand the same from girlfriends and vice versa.
I have absolutely no doubt in his ability to commit and his love but these things do shake things up a bit. The question of attachment versus commitment comes up and in a quest to distinguish the two and distance myself from any overbearing behaviour, I googled the terms.
Attachment was defined as “the emotional bond that typically forms between infant and caregiver, usually a parent, not only stimulates brain growth but affects personality development and lifelong ability to form stable relationships (Psychology Today) whereas Commitment was slightly harder to define. It was referred to as a pledge or promise or obligation.
Can I therefore assume that for women - the nurturing gender - attachment is a form of love and a bond which they can have with their partners as well as an infant? And does this love stimulate their brain expansion? Does it mean that commitment as an obligation for the male counterpart has less of a romantic connotation? Which one is it that creates the above-mentioned disparities?
I think both sentiments are important to create a well rounded relationship. I also know while the betrothed may be more detached when far away, his commitment is unwavering.
Knowing this increases my attachment and I’m looking forward to sealing it with a kiss next year.
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Affection is responsible for nine-tenths of whatever solid and durable happiness there is in our lives.C. S. Lewis
